In life, in sex, sometimes we feel able and bold enough to ask for what we want. But not always - even when we could. We might not fear upsetting others in some way, looking greedy… desperate.
Of course, life can mean, often means, we don’t always get what we want… that job, that holiday, that car… that man.
The invitation here is to consider that, not getting exactly what we want doesn’t mean we get nothing – maybe some compromise that means both parties get something.
One challenge, looking back - could we have got what we wanted… if only we’d asked?
And even deeper: in what ways are we censoring ourselves, stopping ourselves asking… not letting ourselves think about what we want, ruling out a while list of things we secretly desire but dare not name, even to ourselves.
Putting it that way, as men attracted to men, many of us – all of us? have spent a lot of time and energy over the years biting our tongues… masters in knowing but not asking for what we want.
This afternoon could be on several levels. We’ll practice simple requests, starting with asking to touch through clothes, noticing how we are when asking and when asked. You may want to stay there – this afternoon is totally about openness to what we want, after all: or maybe explore other kinds of touch and connection. And, it can help to learn what ‘No’ feels like too - even if as an exercise – so our ‘Yes’ carries meaning.
You may feel you want to go further into touch, maybe naked, maybe genital… becoming very playful in each other's ‘gardens of yes!’ …
Or, maybe just holding hands: or just spending some time in your own space.
Why do this? Well, in intimate situations you may feel empowered to ask – and when to gently say no. And, possibly, the practice of asking for what you want in a tantra workshop might also be a practice towards asking for what you want in other moments of your life… now that would be something…
Like all Tantric Meetings for Men, we will start with introductions and checking agreements to ensure we have a safe, consensual and confidential space. We then move into connections through touch before going into various ways into and practices of asking for what we want.
All Tantric Meetings are suitable for guys new to tantra and those with experience: do note this workshop includes the opportunity for full nudity. Also, there is an invitation to work with different men, which can be great to learn. However it's fine if you bring a partner who you want to stay with - just let me know and we'll share that in the opening circle.
Please contact me if you have questions about group tantra (email tantrawakenings@zoho.com, call/text/WhatsApp me on 07813 371006).
Please bring a sheet (ideally flat or fitted single), a towel, a water bottle, perhaps a sarong or blanket for breaks… and an open mind and heart.
There are Early Bird discounts, but please note NOTAFLOF - No One Turned Away For Lack Of Funds: which means, please contact me if money is a barrier to your attending
Finally, please check the ‘Terms and Conditions’, our agreements about participation.