The Erotic Gateway
A Men's Workshop and Erotic Play Space
Connection. Intimacy. Pleasure. Freedom to explore.
What happens when you give yourself permission to explore intimacy with other men, without pressure, expectations or the need to perform?
The Erotic Gateway is a full-day experience for gay and bisexual men who want to explore connection, touch, sexuality and pleasure in a welcoming, thoughtfully facilitated environment.
Whether you're curious, experienced, nervous or excited, you're invited to arrive exactly as you are.
This is more than a play party. We begin with a guided workshop where you can slow down, connect with your body, meet other men and explore what feels right for you.
As the day unfolds, we transition into an erotic play space where curiosity, pleasure and genuine connection can emerge naturally.
There is no pressure to participate in anything. Your choices and boundaries are respected throughout.
Our Intention
We want to create a space where men can feel comfortable being themselves.
A space to explore desire without shame, connect without performance and experience intimacy with greater awareness and freedom.
You don't need to arrive with a partner or know anyone beforehand. You can come on your own and discover the experience at your own pace.
Our approach brings together embodiment, consent, therapeutic awareness and sex-positive exploration.
The Day | 9.30 am to 6 pm
Morning: Connection and Embodiment
Through guided exercises, movement and shared exploration, we'll support you to:
- Feel more confident and comfortable in your body.
- Meet other men through authentic connection.
- Explore touch, attraction and intimacy.
- Communicate your desires and boundaries.
- Discover what you want, without pressure or judgement.
Afternoon: The Erotic Gateway
As the workshop progresses, we open the space for conscious erotic exploration.
You are welcome to:
- Explore touch, intimacy and pleasure at your own pace.
- Connect with other men in ways that feel right for you.
- Express your erotic self with curiosity and respect.
- Observe, rest or take space whenever you choose.
Everything is invitational.
Your NO matters as much as your YES.
An Invitation
Come with curiosity. Come with uncertainty. Come with excitement.
You don't have to prove anything or become someone different.
Simply give yourself permission to explore what connection, intimacy and pleasure might feel like when you can be yourself.
Saturday 28 November 2026 | London
Facilitated by Armand Botha and Sam Cotton.
Book your place and join us.
Your Facilitators: Armand and Sam bring together their collective years of experience facilitating group sessions and providing one-to-one support, integrating trauma-informed therapy with tantra and other bodywork practices.
Armand Botha trained in Core Energetics in the Netherlands, and has deepened his work through Neo-Tantra, Sexological Bodywork, Internal Family Systems, and Body Poetry, shaping his grounded, experiential and playful style. Now practising in London, he works with individuals and groups within the gay community. His work centres on creating conditions for men to access vitality and authentic erotic expression.
Sam Cotton is an experienced psychotherapist and a trauma-aware group facilitator specialising in gay male clients. He previously delivered the Addiction Treatment Programme at The Priory and as a Senior Hoffman Process Teacher, has facilitated countless personal development large groups. He holds Postgraduate Diplomas in Solution Focused Therapy and Addiction Psychology and is also an Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this just a sex party?
No. The day begins with structured workshops focused on embodiment, desire, and consent. The erotic space later in the day grows naturally from that foundation.
Do I have to take part in sexual activity?
No. Everything is invitational. You choose how — and whether — you engage. Your desire sets the pace.
Will there be nudity?
There may be nudity in the erotic space. You’ll be carefully guided throughout the day, moving step by step. You decide your level of exposure, touch, and exploration. Nothing is rushed. Nothing is required.
Is this therapy?
No. While held by experienced therapists and facilitators, this is an experiential space for embodied connection and erotic exploration that contains therapeutic elements, but it is not a therapy group.
What if I feel nervous?
That’s completely natural. The structure of the day is designed to help you arrive in your body, build trust, and let connection unfold gradually. If you are new to this type of work, you will feel well supported.
What are the consent guidelines?
Clear verbal consent is required for all touch and interaction. “No” is respected immediately. We prioritise mutual desire, clarity, and care.
Are trans men able to attend?
This workshop is designed and run by cisgender gay men for other cisgender gay men. We explore gay male erotic connection, including the possibility of nudity and sexual interaction. For any man who does not fit this category, we are happy to recommend the following spaces: https://lovingmen.org, https://pleasuremedicine.co.uk, https://whoislikemike.com