A thoughtfully facilitated, sex-positive space for gay men that weaves embodiment, consent, and therapeutic practice into a guided erotic experience.
The Erotic Gateway is a full-day immersion for men who want to meet their sexuality with presence rather than performance.
This is not simply a play party. It is a structured, carefully held journey that begins with embodied workshop practices and intentionally transitions into a consent-led erotic space.
You will be supported to slow down, tune into your body, and clarify your desires. The emphasis is on safety, humanity, and genuine connection — creating an environment where you can meet yourself and other men with steadiness and self-trust.
Our Intention
This experience is carefully designed specifically for gay and bi men who value integrity, presence, and mutual respect. Participation is conscious and choice-led. There is no pressure to perform or escalate. Many participants return as part of an ongoing journey of erotic self-trust.
Come prepared to show up honestly. Leave more connected - to yourself and to other men.
The Day (9:30am – 6:00pm)
Practices designed to help you:
- Build confidence in your body
- Develop clear consent and boundaries
- Ask for what you want without shame
- Release limiting sexual scripts
- Cultivate regulation and erotic awareness
The afternoon seamlessly transitions into a structured, sex-positive environment where you may:
- Explore connection and touch at your own pace
- Express your erotic self, consciously and respectfully
- Engage, observe, or take space as needed
Everything remains invitational. Consent guides every step. Your “no” carries equal weight to your “yes.”
Your Facilitators: Armand and Sam bring together their collective years of experience facilitating group sessions and providing one-to-one support, integrating trauma-informed therapy with tantra and other bodywork practices.
Armand Botha trained in Core Energetics in the Netherlands, and has deepened his work through Neo-Tantra, Sexological Bodywork, Internal Family Systems, and Body Poetry, shaping his grounded, experiential and playful style. Now practising in London, he works with individuals and groups within the gay community. His work centres on creating conditions for men to access vitality and authentic erotic expression.
Sam Cotton is an experienced psychotherapist and a trauma-aware group facilitator specialising in gay male clients. He previously delivered the Addiction Treatment Programme at The Priory and as a Senior Hoffman Process Teacher, has facilitated countless personal development large groups. He holds Postgraduate Diplomas in Solution Focused Therapy and Addiction Psychology and is also an Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this just a sex party?
No. The day begins with structured workshops focused on embodiment, desire, and consent. The erotic space later in the day grows naturally from that foundation.
Do I have to take part in sexual activity?
No. Everything is invitational. You choose how — and whether — you engage. Your desire sets the pace.
Will there be nudity?
There may be nudity in the erotic space. You’ll be carefully guided throughout the day, moving step by step. You decide your level of exposure, touch, and exploration. Nothing is rushed. Nothing is required.
Is this therapy?
No. While held by experienced therapists and facilitators, this is an experiential space for embodied connection and erotic exploration that contains therapeutic elements, but it is not a therapy group.
What if I feel nervous?
That’s completely natural. The structure of the day is designed to help you arrive in your body, build trust, and let connection unfold gradually. If you are new to this type of work, you will feel well supported.
What are the consent guidelines?
Clear verbal consent is required for all touch and interaction. “No” is respected immediately. We prioritise mutual desire, clarity, and care.
Are trans men able to attend?
This workshop is designed and run by cisgender gay men for other cisgender gay men. We explore gay male erotic connection, including the possibility of nudity and sexual interaction. For any man who does not fit this category, we are happy to recommend the following spaces: https://lovingmen.org, https://pleasuremedicine.co.uk, https://whoislikemike.com