A guided intimacy, touch + sensual massage workshop for gay men
🕒 4 hours | 💷 £85 | 👬 Limited to 16 men
Touch Me is a tender, transformative workshop designed to help gay men explore the power of conscious, consensual and sensual touch in a safe, welcoming space.
You’ll be gently guided through practices that build trust, awaken sensitivity and deepen connection with yourself and with others.
Expect nourishing contact, massage-based exchanges and heart-opening exercises that help you soften, receive and feel more alive in your body.
✨ This is not a sex space — it’s a space for conscious erotic embodiment and connection.
There’s something we often forget: how much we need to be touched. How much our bodies long for safe connection and contact that asks for nothing but presence, authenticity and tender care.
Touch Me was born out of that need. A deep call to come back home to ourselves through the mirror of another’s hands, heartbeat, warmth and presence.
You’re invited to explore how to really touch, and perhaps more importantly, how to truly be touched.
At Touch Me, we slowly peel off the armour, drop the performance and let our masks melt away. We gently let go of the scripts we learned growing up gay in a world that didn’t teach us how to feel safe in our bodies.
We undress only to our underwear (if you want to - fully clothed is totally cool too!) to keep things soft, embodied and grounded. This is a gentle introduction to the art of conscious touch.
The group is intentionally limited to just 16 men to create safety, intimacy and real connection.
While sexual feelings may arise (as is natural in erotic embodiment work), this is a non-sexual workshop. That means:
❌ No oral
❌ No penetration
❌ No kissing
✔️ Hands, bodies, breath, eyes, voice, presence and care
This space welcomes all intentions, whether you're seeking simple human closeness or open to exploring deeper layers of embodiment and relationship.
The heartbeat of Touch Me is kindness and care. You may feel vulnerability, arousal, joy, nervousness or peace. All responses are welcome.
💫 What Is the Touch Work Based On?
We use Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, a powerful model of relating and communication that teaches us how to give and receive touch with clarity, honesty and integrity.
For example:
A: “How would you like to be touched for the next 3 minutes?”
B: “I’d love you to gently stroke my back. Now rest your hands there… a little more pressure… now softly trace your fingers along my sides.”
A: “How’s that? Would you like it slower? Softer?”
This approach helps us recognise and express our full-bodied yes and confident no, whether we are giving or receiving.
We also draw on tools and techniques from Sexological Bodywork — a professional, therapeutic approach to erotic learning, pleasure and healing through the body.
🧺 What to Bring
- A towel or blanket
- Comfortable underwear/ shorts/vest (or clothes you feel comfy in)
- Massage oil if you prefer your own (we provide organic, water-dispersible, non-staining oil)
- An open heart and willingness to learn
🧑🤝🧑 Who Will Be There?
A diverse group of warm-hearted, kind, curious gay men — all exploring new ways to connect, slow down and experience intimacy beyond performance.
You’re welcome exactly as you are.
🔐 Boundaries & Nudity
This is not a sexual workshop. Clothing is optional only to a level you feel safe with. You are invited to work in underwear or stay fully or partially clothed if that’s what’s right for you.
All exercises are optional. You are encouraged to go at your own pace, check in with yourself and only participate in what feels nourishing.
🤲 Do I Have to Work with Strangers?
Most exercises involve pairing or small group work and you’ll be invited (not forced) to rotate between partners. You’re always welcome to stay with someone you know, work with your partner or opt out of any practice.
Introducing Your Facilitator
GARY ALBERT
Gary has over a decade of experience as a therapist and erotic bodyworker. He is devoted to helping gay men unlock their pleasure centres, soften shame and rediscover joy, intimacy and sensuality through embodied dance, celebratory sexuality and sensual touch. He is also an award-winning music maker and performer, conscious DJ, writer and creator of Pleasure Medicine, a bi-weekly Ecstatic Dance for gay men that involves sensual connection and conscious dance in Hackney, East London.
Gary is a columnist for queer culture magazine QX Magazine and writes personal story and opinion pieces as well as cultural analysis all from the perspective of being in the waters with the reader, trying to work it all out…